Being in a relationship with the wrong person should make us more afraid than being single
Being single does not mean being "alone". But, nevertheless, many people choose to stay in toxic relationships because of the fear of abandonment and for fear of never finding anyone again.
To love and to be loved is wonderful, but when a love story does not work out, it is much better to end it, rather than condemn yourself to a life of unhappiness.
This does not mean that we should not try to save a love relationship, but we must also learn to understand when it is time to let go.
Here are some reasons why you should be more afraid of being in a relationship with the wrong person than of being single.
via heysigmund.com
There are things that are much more frightening than not having a partner. Many people start looking for a companion, just so they can say they have one. Only later, they realize that their relationship does more harm to them than being single.
- 1. Feeling the relationship as an obligation.
On your own you can go to the movies, to a restaurant, to take a walk or shopping with absolute naturalness and normality. Do not be afraid to spend time alone, but rather to experience spending time in the company of someone who does not appreciate us or who makes it feel like an obligation.
- 2. Waking up next to a stranger.
There was a time when you slept on your own without needing anyone lying next to you, so there is no reason why you cannot do it again. It is much sadder to wake up next to a partner who has become almost like a stranger, someone who is only a shadow of the person we fell in love with.
- 3. Making love without feeling loved
Intimacy is an important component in a couple's relationship, but physical contact is not everything. There must also be emotional and mental involvement, in essence, to make love "we need love".
- 4. Talking without understanding
In a couple, communication is the key to everything. However, it is possible to talk or have a discussion without ever really understanding or saying anything interesting. Between two people there must be clarity and understanding and no one should ever try to prevail over the other, thinking that only their ideas are the correct ones.
- 5. Feeling guilty for being like you are
Is it worse to be alone or together with someone who does not let us be ourselves? Obviously, the question is rhetorical, we cannot live with a person who is constantly trying to change us. To love someone means to accept their defects too, without judging, without criticizing, leaving time and space from them to grow. Only with those who really love us, without forcing, can we become the best version of ourselves.
Unfortunately, many people understand too late that it not enough to just have a partner to say that they are in love. Therefore, to all those who are looking for a companion, the advice is not to be in a hurry, because being with someone who is not right for us leads to experiencing profound suffering that is far worse than feeling lonely due to being single.
