This is what happens to your child's brain when you communicate by yelling
Being a parent is the most beautiful and complicated job that exists, and there is no doubt about this.
Raising and loving our children also implies knowing how to educate them properly. However, unfortunately, it is not always possible to get them to listen and obey just by "being nice".
Thus, one gives in to the temptation of raising one's voice, with the intention of commanding attention and gaining respect. Although this is a road that has always been traveled, it may not be the most suitable for the well-being of one's children.
- Behavioral Disorders. Children who have been subjected to verbal abuse develop problems in managing emotions, attitudes, and behavior with respect to those who have not had similar negative experiences. These behavioral problems are manifested in aggression, poor academic performance, depression, and isolation.
- Self-esteem issues. When one always shouts and yells at a child in order to be obeyed, the child will think and feel that they are unloved and unappreciated.
- Emotional block and states of anxiety. When a child hears an adult shouting angrily, the reaction is as if there were a dangerous situation and the child responds by activating the stress hormone and triggering the typical "fight or flight" mechanism.
- An imbalance between the brain hemispheres. The two main sections of the brain, the left and right hemispheres, communicate through a pathway of nerve fibers called the corpus callosum. In a state of tension, the blood flow along this bundle of nerves is reduced resulting in decreased brain activity.
Today's parents can exploit many more resources and pedagogical knowledge than in previous generations, yet they often fall into the same errors and almost always for the same reasons.
The first is their inability to channel the anger and frustration that accumulates daily, in the right way or towards something else. Therefore, their children end up becoming, unconsciously, a release valve.
The second reason is simply their emulation of behaviors received in turn from their own parents, for which many parents do not even consider an alternative to a practice that has always been used.
Raising and educating children without shouting and yelling is possible. However, initially, you will need to make more of an effort, but later, you will be amply rewarded in return.
