Disabled woman complains about her husband who is still unable to do laundry even after years of instruction
Life as a couple is not at all easy, especially if you decide to get married and live forever under the same roof, eating at the same table and sleeping in the same bed. A close relationship can often and unwittingly generate disagreements between two people, and this is the case between a husband and wife, who, by all appearances, seemed to be a normal couple on the surface. How it happened, and continues to happen, to this couple who are the subject of this weird story is a tale of...disabilities.
via bonnidoes/TikTok
This is the story of Bonnie, a disabled woman who long ago decided to marry her current husband. The woman lived through her adolescent years, but also her mature years, with a connective tissue disorder, various neurological problems, a brain injury and many other comorbidities that have developed over time. The first few years of their marriage were not at all easy as the woman had to fight her disabilities - countless surgeries and a lot of stress for both her and her husband. This has been an emotional situation that, over time, has left deep scars on the woman's psyche. But notwithstanding these challenges, recently, her struggles have given her an insight into some things that she had long underestimated and overlooked: "As a disabled partner, I realized that I was accepting the bare minimum (and sometimes less) for the sake of both of us. It's been a very difficult six or seven years for me medically, and my skill levels have changed a lot. I felt so bad about 'letting him go through' it all - the fear, exhaustion and stress of seeing me suffer, and all the other unknowns, that I felt like I had to 'compensate him' for causing all these problems... "
Bonnie continued her story: "I felt like I had to compensate him for being disabled, to compensate for his stress, to compensate for not being able to do things as a" normal couple. But one day it struck me how much I was actually doing, and I realised how little he noticed what I was doing. I was bending over backwards to keep him at ease, when my own comfort had never been considered. But sometimes I just can't tell if it's just me doing it for myself or for my husband (who is 33 years old) and just doesn't want to help me. "
In a video posted to TikTok, Bonnie rather ironically said that her husband can never remember how to do the laundry at home. Despite it being the millionth time that she has explained the laundry process to him, it seems that the man just can't remember the basic steps on how to load the clothes correctly in the washing machine. A seemingly trivial thing, but one that in Bonnie's condition is exacerbated by a sense of helplessness and frustration.
As you can see from the the video on TikTok, the woman also bought a white board and a marker on which to write down the basic steps on how to turn on the washing machine for her husband, but it seems that every time the man just stands in front of the white board with a confused and lost look. In short, every time, it is always the same story...
Bonnie is furious about her husband's behavior who, unlike her, is certainly not disabled and can do these housekeeping duties perfectly and without the instructions on the white board provided by his wife. This is an absurd situation that she wanted to tell the web about, venting her frustration.
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