She wants to propose to her boyfriend, but friends advise against it: "It's a man thing"
These days, there are those who still believe that men and women have very distinct roles in society and that they should never overlap. Although there are obvious differences, we have been trying to walk the path of equality for decades and it is for this reason that it is natural to be disapproving of some events that happen in which it seems that we are, in fact, taking steps backwards. A young woman posted her story on Reddit because some of her friends had advised her against going down on one knee and proposing to her boyfriend. The reason? Well, because it's a man thing of course! Yes, in short, it seemed that for some it would be "inappropriate" for a woman to take such an initiative ...
The girl didn't even think her idea would be laughed at by her other friends. On Reddit, she told of the origins of her love story and about the idea of asking her boyfriend to marry her:
"I met my boyfriend three years ago, we were colleagues, we dated as friends for a few months, and then from our first kiss we started dating seriously and we fell in love. We have never felt so happy, and marriage is something we both see in our future, it is something we both want. Speaking to a mutual friend, I said I was considering proposing to my boyfriend in March at his birthday party. I would not have expected this suggestion to make me a laughing stock".
The friend replied in no uncertain terms that she should not do it, because this would have diminished the manhood of her boyfriend, hurting and embarrassing him in front of everyone. The woman was shocked by this reaction and she wanted to ask her other friends for their opinions: but they all answered her in exactly the same way. It seemed that the question for everyone to discuss was not whether to marry or not, but who should be making the proposal.
On Reddit, however, the opinion of users was much more varied. Some spoke out negatively against her idea, using the same arguments that her friends had; others, however, have told her that it does not matter what the gender of the person making the proposal is, but that maybe she should do it at a more private time and place, and not during his birthday party, in front of all his and her friends. Doing so might make him feel that he had been put under unfair pressure. Another user commented: "You already know that even if your boyfriend was delighted with the proposal, his friends would make fun of him all the time and that will surely not make you feel good either."
What do you think: who should make a marriage proposal?
