Young daughter dyes her hair like a rainbow for $ 300, so her father charges her rent as a life-lesson
When dealing with the subject concerning the relationship between parents and children, one must always be careful because it is a very sensitive topic to speculate about. In fact, parents are not always able to communicate effectively and make themselves understood by their child - especially if the latter is in the midst of their adolescence phase. More generally, however, some topics that come up are really hard to deal with and there is the risk of creating misunderstandings and strife. And a very similar thing happened to the father we are about to tell you about in this story.
Due to the behavior of his 19-year-old daughter, this father had a fight with his daughter and after, out of fear of having made a mistake, he told his story on Reddit and asked for some advice. Let's see specifically what triggered incident.
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Doubting what he had done regarding his 19-year-old daughter, a father decided to tell his story in a post to the social media platform, Reddit. His message starts with these words: "My wife and I have 3 children. The eldest, Kate, graduated last year and decided to take a break from studying. We had were not exactly happy about this but grudgingly accepted her decision. However, we stated that she would have to follow some rules." The father's story continued: "We were adamant that she had to find a job and also to help around the house. If it had been up to me, I would have made her pay a symbolic amount of rent, but my wife did not agree with doing this and I let the demand go".
But the one thing this dad didn't like at all, though, was his daughter's handling of money. Every spare dime she had was spent almost immediately and, worst of all, on trivial and unnecessary things. After several attempts to stop this wasteful behavior, this father was told to let the matter go by his wife.
The father continued: "Many times I was told that the money was hers and she could dispose of it as she sees fit. This is true, but only up to a certain point. Since she still lived with us, it seemed proper to give her rules and to teach her the value of money and the importance of managing it properly". But the man's protests fell on deaf ears, and his daughter continued to spend her money like a drunken sailor - until an incident happened that reignited the conflict.
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One day, the man's daughter came home with a new look: she had dyed her hair the colors of rainbow and the styling had cost her a whopping $ 300. This was a huge amount for something completely useless (according to her father).
The man wrote: "At this point I told her that if she had the money to pay for a hairdresser, then she could also pay her share of the rent. She replied that I did not understand her needs and that she could not bear my attempts to control her money. My wife agreed with her. She repeated that I needed to give our daughter more freedom and that she would learn to manage money by herself - but I'm not at all convinced by this argument and I feel helpless".
From the internet, comments about the story were not long in coming and most of the man's followers reported having lived through similar events. Many were in total agreement with the beliefs and attitude of the father. Moreover, most stated that it is very important that a parent passes on some core values to their children and intervenes in situations that he or she does not consider appropriate and right.
What do you think: do you agree with this father, or do you think it is more effective to give one's children the freedom to learn from their own mistakes?
