"My wife fell pregnant, wants to give birth and then give the baby up for adoption. I asked her to have an abortion: am I wrong?"
Pregnancies can be accidental even if all possible precautions have been taken by mutual agreement. Nobody can be blamed for this, of course. The story of this couple, however, brings to light some really complex issues, and it is extremely difficult to judge or give advice on this issue. A man turned to Reddit to explain how his wife wants to carry her pregnancy to term and the to give the baby up for adoption, despite both agreeing not to have any children. Let's try to examine this situation in more detail:
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The man explained to Reddit users that he has been married to his wife for nine years and has no children. Both, in fact, have never wanted to have any kids and on this, they have always agreed. Accidents do happen, however, and it happened that the woman fell pregnant, despite the fact that she regularly took birth control pills. Given their no-kids agreement, the husband expected his wife to have an abortion, but things did not turn out this way. When the woman discovered she was nine weeks pregnant, she suddenly changed her mind, telling her husband that she felt a strange and very strong attachment to the infant that was growing in her womb. The husband, very upset, asked her several times to have an abortion, since they had both agreed on this from the beginning. But the woman revealed that she wanted to carry the pregnancy to term. Keeping the baby was her preferred choice, but because she loved her husband, she said she would be willing to give the baby up for adoption when born. The husband, however, was also opposed to adoption as a solution, due to his personal background.
"I told her I wasn't very comfortable with this decision and asked her again to have an abortion," stated the husband, "She started crying and decided to spend the night at her sister's house. Now she won't answer my phone calls".
"I'm uncomfortable with this adoption story for a few reasons. I was adopted at birth and my adoptive parents weren't exactly the best. I know that's not the case with everyone, but I can't help but have a negative opinion about it. A few years ago, I tried to find my biological parents to find out about my medical history, but I couldn't. I was sorry about this for a while, now it doesn't bother me anymore. My wife knows of these things," concluded the man. He also asked his followers for their opinions on the matter. Most users were ambivalent: the husband is not at fault for requesting his wife to have an abortion, but neither can the wife be blamed for having changed her mind on the matter. The final decision should be up to the wife, according to most Reddit users. They stressed how much she has shown that she cares about her husband since she is willing to give the child up for adoption. On the other hand, an abortion could cause lasting trauma that hurt the couple.
What do you think about this?
