Mother is clear with her pregnant, teenage daughter: "I won't be the one to raise your baby"
The birth of a child is certainly a happy event, but it also carries a lot of responsibility. This causes new parents to have a mix of emotions: joy, but also worry of not coming up to par, and hoping that everything will go well. What can be done, however, when one has a teenage daughter who wants to have a baby and takes for granted that her parents will raise the child? This situation is one that a woman posted to the web, after discovering that her 17-year-old daughteris pregnant.
via Reddit
"My 17-year-old daughter is 7 weeks pregnant (she will be 18 when she gives birth) and is no longer in a relationship with the baby's father," the mother began. The two broke up because the young man doesn't want to become a father. "Honestly, I don't even think he will show up for childbirth or anything," the woman continued.
Despite this, the girl decided to keep the baby, against advice to the contrary from her entire family: "After she insisted not only on having the baby, but also raising it, I asked her how she will manage. She replied by saying she wanted to find a job". At this point the mother asked her daughter: "And who will look after the baby while you are at work?" The young woman replied: "I thought you and dad could do it." On hearing these words, the woman retorted with conviction: "Absolutely not! I'm not going to raise another child."
"I realized that if she has a baby in this house, I will become the baby's mother. I am recently retired and my husband is retiring 11 months from now, and this is not how I want to spend my golden years. It is not right. So, I told my daughter she has time until the baby is born to find another place to live. I will help her find a job, get assistance if needed, find affordable housing and all that is needed, but I will not raise this child. My husband is not entirely in agreement with me, but I feel that we must be united on this issue", concluded the mother, asking readers for their opinions.
Users have come out in favor of the mother: "I think you are right about being supportive of your daughter, but being firm about your decision not to let her take advantage of you. You can't choose whether or not she should have the baby - which is right. But she too must accept the responsibilities she will have to face when she becomes a new mother", commented one reader.
What do you think?
