"My best friend doesn't want my girlfriend at his wedding: I won't be his best man anymore"
A wedding is an unforgettable event for those who decide to take this big step, and it is an equally important day for the people close to the bride and groom: in fact, it is not uncommon for wedding attendees to be as excited as the spouses. However, sometimes the wedding party can ask a bit too much of their guests.
This is the case for the subject of our story, who asked the web for advice on how to handle a tough dilemma: his best friend - the groom - does not want him to bring his longtime girlfriend to the wedding. Read on to find out more:
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The young man, let's call him Bill, said: "One of my closest friends asked me to take part in his wedding: there are going to be a lot of guests and 10 witnesses. I've been with my girlfriend for a long time, about 6 years - for 4 of which, we have lived together. The groom knows her quite well - they went out for a while but that never caused a problem between us." Recently, Bill moved to the other side of the country for work, but he kept in touch with the groom by phone and attended the engagement party with his girlfriend. The day the wedding invitation arrived, however, it was addressed only to him - no mention of his girlfriend.
Perplexed, Bill contacted another invitee to find out if he too had received a "single person" invitation, but the invitee told Bill that his invitation included his partner: "It looked like I was the only one in a serious relationship not to have their partner invited," Bill said.
Bill phoned the groom to find out what the deal was, and got the following explaination: a mistake had been made and the number of guests had to be cut. However, if someone should cancel, the first available seat would go to Bill's girlfriend. "Sounds like a nice enough gesture, until you take into account that my girlfriend would have to book a last-minute flight, which greatly increases the cost. The wedding is in 2 months," Bill stated.
The whole affair has left a bad taste in Bill's mouth, not least because attending the wedding will cost him north of $2000 dollars. So, at this point, Bill is considering turning down the invitation: "It would have been different if I had been given advance warning - but the way they handled it was just rude," Bill said.
Readers fully supported Bill: “You are one of the ten witnesses and you are the best man. If they are going to cut back, they should have reduced this number. Turning down their invitation is the right response - one less 'annoying' guest from their over-long list!” commented one user.
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